Episode 3: Gay Men and Dating Apps
In this episode, we sat down with Brian and Mason to talk about their experiences with gay dating apps.
Dating apps have changed the way we meet people. You can connect with someone who lives far away, someone who shares your interests, or someone who's just looking for a good time. It's like having a whole world of possibilities right at your fingertips. But as Brian pointed out, “the problem with dating apps is not the technology, because the technology exacerbates the problems that already exist in what’s happening in our lives.”
Social media can also make dating a bit tricky. People often try to present the best version of themselves online, which can make it hard to really know someone. It's easy to compare yourself to others and feel like you're not good enough.
Even though dating apps can have some downsides, people still want to connect with others. As Mason said, “we’re all spirits living in this body temporarily, trying to connect with other spirits. But the apps are just making us the technology’s making us just look at them as numbers.”
One of the biggest challenges of online dating is that it can be easy to focus on superficial things, like someone’s looks or job. But true connections are based on more than just physical appearance. It’s important to look for qualities like kindness, humor, and intelligence.
Another challenge is that it can be hard to maintain a connection online. It’s easy to get caught up in the endless cycle of swiping and messaging. To build a real relationship, you need to put in the effort to get to know someone beyond the screen.
Despite the challenges, many people have found love and friendship through dating apps. It’s important to approach these apps with a positive attitude and realistic expectations. Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there and be yourself.
By being smart about how we use dating apps and social media, we can find ways to connect with others in meaningful ways. It’s all about being yourself, being kind, and being patient. Remember, real connections take time and effort, both online and offline.