Episode 28: The 90% Problem: Percentage of Men Who Get NO LOVE on the Dating Apps
We sat down with our friends Alex and Chris to talk about the highs and lows of dating apps. They shared their experiences and gave us some valuable advice:
First Impressions Matter
Your profile is your digital first impression. Choose photos that show off your personality and lifestyle. Don't use blurry selfies or outdated pictures. A good profile picture can make a big difference in getting matches.
Your bio is your chance to shine. Keep it concise, interesting, and honest. Tell people about your hobbies and interests. Don't be afraid to show your personality, but avoid being too self-centered or negative.
Messaging Matters
When you message someone, be polite, friendly, and engaging. Ask thoughtful questions that show you're interested in getting to know them. Avoid generic greetings like "Hey, what's up?" and try to start a conversation based on their profile.
The Harsh Reality of the 80/20 Rule
One of the biggest challenges for many men is the imbalance of attention on dating apps. A small percentage of men receive a disproportionate amount of matches, while the majority struggle to get any attention. This can be frustrating, but it's important to remember that there are still plenty of people out there who are looking for a connection.
Don't Take It Personally
Ghosting, breadcrumbing, and other forms of bad dating behavior can be hurtful, but try not to take it personally. Remember, not everyone is a good match, and sometimes people simply lose interest.
Be Patient and Persistent
Finding the right person takes time. Don't get discouraged if you don't find a match right away. Keep trying, be patient, and stay positive.
Be Yourself
Authenticity is key. Don't try to be someone you're not. People can spot a fake a mile away. Be genuine and let your personality shine through.
Have Fun
Dating apps can be a fun way to meet new people and have new experiences. Don't take it too seriously. Relax, enjoy the process, and have fun.